Experiencing These 9 Unanticipated Consequences When Pursuit of an Evasive Person Ceases
In the realm of personality disorders, Avoidant Personality Disorder stands out for its unique characteristics. People with this disorder often grapple with an extremely low self-esteem and an inferiority complex [1].
Individuals with Avoidant Personality Disorder tend to be socially awkward, maintaining a limited circle of friends in real life, and are known for hiding their feelings [2]. This social reticence can lead to isolation, as they may avoid interactions and self-isolate [3].
When a relationship becomes challenging, they may choose to "fade out" or gradually distance themselves from the person [4]. Alternatively, they may "deactivate," cutting off all contact abruptly, a move that can come across as cold and aloof [5]. In some cases, they may block the person to maintain a sense of peace and avoidance [10].
Blocking someone can also be a passive-aggressive tactic, a way for the avoidant to avoid contact without directly causing conflict [11]. If they decide they can't be in a relationship, they may opt for complete radio silence [12].
The avoidant's behaviour can be puzzling, as they may make excuses for their actions when they express a desire for a relationship but act disinterested [6]. Their messages may appear lengthy, but lack emotional depth [9].
Intriguingly, they may harbour secret hopes that the person will never contact them again when they give radio silence [13]. They may also exhibit signs of jealousy, daydreaming about ideal relationships [14].
It's worth noting that the search results do not specify the most frequent authors who write about the behaviour of people with Avoidant Personality Disorder. However, understanding this complex disorder can help us empathise with those who struggle with it and navigate relationships more effectively.
When you stop chasing an avoidant who is not interested, they often feel relieved [7]. They may test the waters with a random text or call [8], but the fear of rejection, the belief that others are judging them, and a negative view of the world [15] can make it difficult for them to initiate or sustain meaningful connections.
